It’s been a while since I’ve sat down and wrote a lifestyle kinda post, which is actually my fave kind to write, so I thought today I’m gonna put my thinking hat on and reflect on what I learnt at 20, now that I’m a super wise and mature 21 year old………
- It’s okay not to know exactly what you want to do with the rest of your life
If you do, cool, but if not, you’re only 20, get experience in what you’re interested in, make contacts, find your niche, then go from there.
- It’s not the end of the world if you’re…well, a bit skint
I mean, having hundreds of pounds in the bank would be better, but its not the be all and end all.
- Outfit repeating is totally fine
And anyone who tells you it’s not is an outfit rememberer, which is just as bad (I wish that was the first time I’ve used a Lizzie Mcguire reference on my blog…)
- Your hangover-free teenage years are behind you *sob*
Basically all those years of laughing at old people who end up bed ridden the full day after a bottle of wine comes back to bite you the minute you turn 20, seriously.
- Going out every single weekend is overrated anyway
I can hear 19 year old me who went out twice, sometimes three times a week gasping in shock somewhere in the distance. Honestly though it’s fun but it gets old (and expensive).
- Obsessing over what people think of you is a total waste of energy
Don’t let the fact people might laugh or cringe at you stop you from *for example* starting a blog! Who gives a crap?!
- Obsessing over wanting to be liked by everyone is an even bigger waste of energy
No matter how hard you try to be nice and kind and friendly to everyone, some people will.just.not.like.you.no.matter.what!!! And as hard as it may be, you have to accept that you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea in life – just the way everyone isn’t yours.
- Eating healthy and exercising go hand in hand (unfortunately)
But the endorphin’s you’ll get from exercising will be totally worth it, and you’ll see results soooo much faster.
- You get out of life what you put in
If you put time and effort into something then you will see it in the results (I defo learnt this with uni – hence why the library is now my second home)
- If you wanna spend the majority of your money on make up, do it!
While you still can! Before you’ve got a mortgage and bills and kids and all that grown up stuff.
- Don’t let anyone/anything make you feel like your emotions, or the way you feel about a situation is invalid, or stupid
And anyone that does…. show them the door.
- That includes yourself, don’t treat your own emotions as invalid
It can be easy to fall into the trap of hiding your feelings, or doing something you don’t want to do because you feel like you’re overreacting or being hyper-sensitive about a situation. You wouldn’t make someone else feel that why so why make yourself feel it?
- You’re not going to get on with everyone you meet
No matter how hard you try to, so just grin and bare it.
- People can be really bloody nasty
But never lower yourself to their level
- …But there are a lot of really lovely people out there too
Be one of them!
- It’s okay to want to post everything on social media
But remember to keep some things to yourself too.
- And dont compare yourself to someone you follow on social media
Remember that people only show the best aspects of their life, and every selfie is taken from a strategic angle and is probs teamed with 25 other almost identical ones that didn’t quite make the cut, before being cropped, filtered and uploaded.
- Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone once in a while is important
Life’s too short to live in your own little bubble, no matter how safe you feel in there!
- Holding grudges only brings more stress for yourself
“Forgiveness is freedom”
- Believe you can and you’re half way there
My favourite quote <3 Some of the things that I accomplished last year I wouldn’t have even dreamt that I’d be able to do, a little self belief works wonders!
I hope you enjoyed this post, let me know in the comments anything you learnt at 20!
Thanks for reading,